I met my wife at work. We lived together for a year. In our minds we were married then, regardless of what the state, church, family and others thought.
I got an overseas assignment, so before leaving, we got married at the courthouse. We had a child. When we got the child baptized, we got married at church. It was a great celebration. The priest visited the party at our home.
Being married is a natural human condition. Everyone should be allowed to be married by the state. Whether a couple is married in a church is up to the couple and the beliefs of the church.
Robert L. Johnson